Beyond Shyness: Understanding Selective Mutism

Selective Mutism

We often label children as 'shy' when they hesitate to speak in social settings like family gatherings or classrooms. However, for some children, the inability to speak in specific situations stems from something much deeper than mere shyness. This could be Selective Mutism (SM), an anxiety disorder where a child consistently fails to speak in particular social situations, despite being comfortable communicating in familiar environments, such as at home.

Selective Mutism can be misunderstood as a choice, but it is far from a conscious decision. Children with Selective Mutism are unable to speak due to overwhelming fear and anxiety in certain social settings, such as school, playgrounds, or social events.

More Than Just Shyness

It's important to distinguish between normal shyness and Selective Mutism. A shy child might initially hide behind a parent in a new environment but will typically warm up over time, engaging in activities and gradually starting to communicate, even if not fully verbally. For example, a shy child might avoid speaking to relatives at a family function initially but will slowly start interacting.

In contrast, children with Selective Mutism remain in what can be described as a 'frozen' state. Their brain’s amygdala, the part responsible for processing emotions, continually signals danger. This triggers their fight, flight, or freeze response, making it incredibly hard for them to speak in anxiety-inducing environments. Unlike shy children, they do not warm up, regardless of the time spent in the setting.

Over 90% of children with Selective Mutism also have social phobias or social anxieties, making social interactions, where speaking is often expected, overwhelming for them. This anxiety can be so severe that some children may not even move their mouths.

A key indicator is a significant discrepancy between a child's communication and behavior at home versus outside the home. Parents often report having a funny, loud, and talkative child at home, while teachers see a completely silent child at school.

Recognizing the Signs

In India, where a strong emphasis is often placed on academic performance and social interaction, children with Selective Mutism can be easily misunderstood. A teacher in a busy classroom may interpret a child's silence as 'good behavior' or attribute it to shyness, and teachers may not have the specialized training to identify such conditions.

Selective Mutism typically emerges during early childhood, commonly between the ages of 2 and 4. It tends to become apparent when a child begins engaging with individuals outside of their immediate family, such as when they enter nursery or school settings.

The key indicator of Selective Mutism is the sharp difference in a child’s behavior at home compared to school or other public environments. If your child is bubbly and expressive at home but freezes up and doesn’t utter a word at school, it’s essential to consider the possibility of Selective Mutism.

The Importance of Early Intervention

Selective Mutism is not a phase that most children simply outgrow. Early intervention is crucial because, without it, children may develop further anxiety disorders or experience academic and social setbacks. Children as young as two years old can exhibit anxiety-related speech issues, and waiting to see if the problem resolves itself can worsen the situation.

India is gradually becoming more aware of mental health issues, but the stigma around seeking psychological support can delay timely intervention. Parents must recognize that seeking help early through child psychologists, speech therapists, pediatricians, or child psychiatrists can significantly improve the child’s long-term development.

The Role of Schools

Teachers play a pivotal role in identifying children with Selective Mutism. With proper training, educators can differentiate between a shy child and a child with Selective Mutism, ensuring they provide a supportive, non-judgmental environment.

Encouraging schools to conduct teacher training on child psychology and mental health is critical. The NEP 2020 aims to address many educational gaps, including holistic student support. By incorporating mental health awareness into the curriculum and teacher training programs, Indian schools can better support children with anxiety-related conditions.

Mpower organizes sessions for teachers and parents on childhood mental health conditions, such as Selective Mutism, focusing on awareness, prevention, identification, and intervention.

Seeking Professional Help

If you suspect your child has Selective Mutism, consulting with professionals is crucial. A multidisciplinary team consisting of clinical psychologists, child psychiatrists, and speech therapists can work together to help the child. At Mpower Center Mumbai, Mpower Centre Delhi, Mpower Centre Bangalore, Mpower Centre Pune, and Mpower Centre Kolkata, professional interventions for Selective Mutism are provided.

Parents should not hesitate to seek a professional assessment if they observe significant differences in their child's behavior across different settings.

Practical Tips for Parents

Parents play a critical role in supporting children with Selective Mutism. Here are some strategies to help your child feel more comfortable in social situations:

  • Wait and Rephrase: When someone asks your child a question, wait for a few seconds, allowing them time to process it. If they don’t respond, rephrase the question to ease the pressure.
  • Offer Forced Choices: If there’s still no response, offer forced choices, e.g., 'Do you want water or juice?' This can elicit non-verbal responses like nodding or shaking the head.
  • Comment and Invite: Engage in activities with your child and comment on the situation rather than directly asking questions. For example, while playing a game, you might say, “We have two puzzle options. Shall we start with the animal puzzle or the car puzzle?”
  • Model Emotional Language: Help your child express their emotions by naming their feelings and sharing your own. Use simple analogies, like comparing anxiety to “butterflies in the stomach,” to help them identify and articulate their emotions.
  • Celebrate Small Steps: Encourage any form of communication, whether verbal or non-verbal. Praise small efforts like nodding or pointing, and focus on the child’s progress rather than waiting for full verbal responses.
  • Avoid Speaking for Your Child: Allow your child time to respond. By refraining from speaking for them, you show belief in their ability to communicate, even if they need more time.

Moving Towards Communication

The path to overcoming Selective Mutism is gradual, and progress may come in small steps. With patience and understanding, parents, educators, and professionals can help children build the confidence to communicate in social settings. It’s not about the child choosing not to speak; it’s about creating an environment where they feel safe and secure enough to use their voice.

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